- Title: By Degrees
- Author: J.B. McDonald
- ISBN: 9781603707749
- Page: 228
- Format: Paperback
Orphaned at eleven and bounced around the foster system, Tim learned young that the only thing he could control in life was himself It was a lesson he took seriously, and it s the only thing that keeps him safe from heartbreak He wants to keep his world well ordered, but he can t seem to keep his friend Conner neatly pigeon holed Conner doesn t understand this desiOrphaned at eleven and bounced around the foster system, Tim learned young that the only thing he could control in life was himself It was a lesson he took seriously, and it s the only thing that keeps him safe from heartbreak He wants to keep his world well ordered, but he can t seem to keep his friend Conner neatly pigeon holed Conner doesn t understand this desire to control things, but he doesn t need to He loves everything about his control freak friend, from Tim s black hair and blue eyes to the way he quirks just one eyebrow Con has loved all these things for years, and now he s learned that it s a short step from loving to falling in love With Con s arrival, everything starts unraveling in Tim s life He finds himself questioning his sexual orientation, wrangling with emotions dragged up from his past, and fending off questions from Con s well meaning family Drowning in a world out of his control, his one hope is to let go and trust that love will save him But after so many years of burying his feelings, he s not sure it s possible.
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I have mixed feelings about this book. On the one hand it is really well written and the emotions come across very vibrantly and realistically for most of the book. I thought it was very well thought out and the descriptions of Eric's emotional distress were compellingOn the other hand, I did not like Eric and I thought Con was a saint. For two boys that were supposed to be life long (albeit long distance) friends, that friendship must have been very superficial because when they get together th [...]
This book is amazing (understatment of the century). I very rarely read a book in which I can so relate to a protagonist Add that to a beauifully written book, with humour and tendernessif you're making a bet that I will be sending the author a gushing email you'd win :)
Even if he now would never admit it, Tim knows that when he met Con for the first time, he found his true love. Problem is that Tim at that time was 10 years old and Con only 12; they still hadn't reached the phase in which someone wonders about being straight or gay, and they had only an year to be together. They were both in boarding school, but then Tim's parents died in a car accident, and Con's father had financial trouble and he went to live with his grandparents. Still they remained in to [...]
It is an odd fact with these m/m books how many people are only children and have both their parents wiped out in one sort of accident or another. I am sure that it is much much more frequent than occurs in real life. I suppose from the author's point of view it A- removes one or more point of potential conflict and B - allows them to explore the ramifications of not 'dealing' with the loss in a timely and appropriate manner. As an antipodean I want to say HOW AMERICAN!With this book we have the [...]
I am not repeating the storyline again, the blurb does a good job of it. What it doesn't tell you is that characterisation of the story. The plot? I think it's doable, but must have sympathetic characters. I like dark characters, I even like a lots of a**hole characters, but I have to be able to feel their pain and understand why they act in a**hole-ways *g*. For Tim's all "I am not gay" struggles and all his hurt past - I didn't feel his pain, but I can tell he's kind of an ass and very selfish [...]
There's a lot about this book that I shouldn't have liked. It's really long for a novel so thin on plot. Tim is, for all intents and purposes, a virgin heroine, a character archetype I really dislike. The book makes strange leaps in logic sometimes—at the beginning, everyone knows Tim is gay but Tim, and the evidence for this seems to be his collection of Johnny Depp movies?Ultimately, though, Tim is a really likable character. He's a Doogie Hauser type, in that he's a full-fledged doctor at 2 [...]
I'm going to start with an apology because I'm going to rant.(view spoiler)[Tim. What the hell man. I don't think there was ONE moment in this book where I actually LIKED Tim or gave a shit what happened to him, if Con would have found someone else to take up with, I WOULD HAVE CHEERED!The most intersting story line in the entire book was the secondary characters Jay and Rick, followed by the grandfather but, the grandmother (and I can't believe I'm saying this) I wanted to throat punch. (I'm so [...]
Tim Shelton is a doctor and his childhood friend Conner Lemor is a fireman. After keeping in touch only through phone conversations and the internet for ten years they finally get together in person. Con is moving to the same city that Tim lives in and is staying in Tim's apartment while looking for his own place. Con realizes he's in love with Tim and wants to take their friendship to the next level but Tim is absolutely sure he is not gay.This was a very emotional book. There are several issue [...]
More of a 3.5 read for me. This was a pretty easy read, with lots of character dialogue. So. Very interesting happenings with Tim. Although it didn't really make him any less prickly. Really, he needed some redeeming quality that overshadowed everything else. But, I connected with Tim on this level. I understand. I hate being touched and I rarely touch others (other than my husband and kids, which I still have a hard time with but I deal with it.). Con. Gosh he was just so understanding. Talk ab [...]
Tom annoyed the hell out of me. I get that he had issuesbut with a character like that ease give me something to love about the guy.He was an ass. I don't understand what was it that made Con fall in love with him.
I was attracted to this book for two reasons: Firstly, I'm a sucker for a friends to lovers storyline, as long as it's done well and is convincing. Secondly, I was in the mood for a bit of angst and By Degrees seemed to fit the bill exactly for that.We begin the book when Con comes to California to visit his long-time friend, Tim. Con is about to be transferred to the same city as Tim and Tim has offered to put him up for a few days so that he can scope out an apartment. The two men haven't seen [...]
Excellent portrayal of someone with psychological damage learning how to loveWarning: This review might contain what some people consider SPOILERS. Rating: 9/10PROS: - The portrayal of Tim’s psychological blockage when it comes to intimacy of any kind is wonderfully done. I can’t remember the last time I read about a character whose struggles in this area struck me as so realistic (yet not over-the-top). And his approach to figuring out whether or not he’s gay is very logical and methodica [...]
Definitely a 4.5 book. Personally, it's probably a 5 star book. The 4 stars given above are more about acknowledging this is probably not a story for everyone. So. who should read this? The people who demand good writing, want more than "brain candy", like well developed multifaceted characters, and/or character studies. Who else should read this? Those that have loved someone with or are themselves: obsessive compulsive, control freaks, socially oblivious, repressed, and / or have various menta [...]
by J.B. McDonaldRating: ★★★★I have mixed feelings about this novel - a journey of one man's self discovery supported by a friend from his past, that ultimately leads to love. I must admit, certain parts of this novel made me think 'Get real, that can't be true' until I decided I needed to research as to whether the scenario was totally implausible or not Well, it's not implausible, and although it generally happens more with women, it can also happen to men. (yes, I'm deliberately being [...]
3.5 Stars rounded up to 4This story was just ok for me. I liked the depth of emotions this book conveys, I like that it wasn't instant love and GFY. Tim put a lot of heart wrenching thought into what he was feeling and took time accepting that he was gay. After a while though, the struggle felt a little over done. I wanted to say just move on already, lol. I'm glad Tim & Con got their happy ever after, I just wish they could have gotten there with a little less angst. :D On a side note, alth [...]
Okay, have to say this right from the start - I hated Tim! I get that people have problems but this guy was completely childish and immature. I felt so sorry for Con and I was actually rooting for him to get fed up and walk out and find someone who actually came close to deserving him cause Tim sure as heck didn't! Of course, this is a listed as a "romance" so that didn't happen but I didn't feel any romance. It has been described in other reviews as a slow-burn but for me it seemed like someone [...]
Wow! I myself feel repressed (during) after reading this book. The characters are not unlikable but the "Nothing" answers just really get on my nerves. The emotion are not well described if not described at all. I guess it suits Tim character real well. He'semotionless and repressed. I personally don't like this "hero" and find him very frustrating and everything. I don't know where the peak in this story is. Simply because what I expected it to be turn out not. That's when Con get shot! Right [...]
3,5 starsI loved the book which featured Rick and Jay, so this may have affected my rating of this one.Tim was tight wound and I had a hard time connecting to him. In the middle of the book I found myself looking at the page count and that frequently, which is just not a good sign for the book. It did work out in the end but still, I felt there were times were it was always same old problems or topic, which did lessen my enjoyment of the book.
Truly wonderful romance that really developed the characters of both Tim and Con. The book did not gloss over the issues that Tim was dealing with, nor did it take the easy route of "love heals all". The book explored the development of Tim and Con's relationship and really showed them working through their challenges. This was a wonderful friends to lovers story, and I'll definitely be reading the companion book to By Degrees, In the Rough.
I read this story for second time now, and I believe I have same emotions about the story as before. The plot is good developed with interesting characters, but somehow I just couldn't feel the attraction between Conner and Tim. Conner is real and you can get him but Tim his cold way of dealing with his personal problems made it just harder to see his feelings as not being forced on him from Connor, Rick or Jay. But the end is sweet and positive, that's great.
**I just re-read & liked the story much better. I was able to understand Tim's personality, so had more sympathy for his struggles.Good idea, well written with some great humor & sexy moments. Con was hot, and the family & friends were a lot of fun. Unfortunately, Tim was pretty unlikeable for most of the story. I know he had issues, but his snarky attitude was unrelenting & it made the relationship seem very one-sided.
First off, Tim irked the heck out with the whole "I'm not gay no wait, yes, I am gay" dilemma. I found myself, halfway through the book and wanting to skim paragraphs to get past the babble. Too much "telling" an not enough "showing" going on. Con, if he is really even human, can take more crap than any man or woman I know. I kept thinking that these characters needed to "man up".
This was a good read. It is about a young man realizing he is gay and understanding that. He has a best friend (character not developed as well as other character) who helps him through this. The grandparents are a riot. You will laugh yourself silly reading some of the things they do.
I loved the patience for each other in this book. True friendship.
This book was hilarious at points and had a great overall story There were way too many typos in the book for it to be completely enjoyable.
I enjoyed the injections of humor in this one, and the healthy dose of realism as well. A sweet friends-to-lovers, gay-for-you sort of story, but well crafted and well told.
Started off slow but it turned into something really lovely.
I loved Con. I loved the secondary characters. I could not find it in me to like Tim. Tim's behavior towards Con through 80% of the book ruined this story for me.
The Grandpa was way too funny! I really enjoyed this story. The way they worked out their problems was very touching.
Not to sure what I think about this book, at least I didn't hate it.
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